How do you feel when you have spent an entire 5 days at home with only your children and husband for company ,the weekend comes and all of a sudden you have to be around other adults? It takes some effort doesn’t it?
Personality Development is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. Feeling good about myself personally makes all the difference when it comes to feeling comfortable around others in my life and feeling like my life has meaning and purpose. It also helps with my day to day at home living and how I interact with my kids.
Definition of Personality Development:
Enhancing and Grooming one’s self to bring about a positive change to your life.
Personality Development goes hand in hand with Self Esteem and Positivity. These play a big role in giving you what you need to thrive outside of your comfort zone and to live a happy fulfilling life. Your personality is a big part of who you are and you are wise if you meditate on it. Everyone has something great in them.
Here are 10 Essential tips to help you stay positive and build your confidence.
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1. Focus on The Positive
Sometimes I find myself focusing on all the things going wrong in my life. I end up feeling anxious and stressed out. Depression starts setting in and I start feeling like there isn’t much to live for.
But, when I focus on the good things in life everything looks exciting and I can’t wait for my days to begin. Work loses it’s drag and I find myself inspired about life. Sometimes I feel like even my children can sense through my moods which way I’m thinking. Focusing on the positive can soon even change your negative habits. You just can’t help being optimistic even when everyone around you is negative.
“Train your mind to see something good in everything.”
“Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change”
2. Accept Yourself As You Are
There is no person in this world who is perfect. Accept Yourself as you are, not as you may be. You can find peace, a greater understanding, and the ability to empathize with others when you learn to accept yourself. Don’t become oblivious to your failures, thinking about them will not condemn you to self hatred. Learn to live with being flawed. Like MOST of yourself as much as you can.
“The moment you accept yourself you become beautiful.”
“Let go of who you think you are supposed to be and be who you are.”
3. Let Your Past Teach You To Be Better
Instead of letting your past mistakes tear you down and make you feel worthless let it build you up. Let it make you stronger and more determined to do better in the future.
“Forget it enough to get over it, remember it enough so it doesn’t happen again.”
“Mistakes have the power to turn you into something better than you were before.”
4. Be Thankful
When you learn to be grateful for the good things in your life it will drown out the negative thoughts and anxiety you were feeling. If we appreciate the little day to day things, we find more satisfaction and meaning in our life.
“When we focus on our Gratitude, the tide of disappointment goes out and the tide of Love rushes in.”
5.Have a Clean Mind, Body and Attitude
Be gentle and polite while at the same time be firm. Meditate on who you are and strive to be the best version of yourself to your family, others, and yourself. Strive to be a more loving example to the people around you. Try to be a better person, without unrealistic expectations.
“Be soft my love, because flowers don’t grow on hard grounds.”
6. Notice Life’s Small Pleasures
That tiny thing in your life that you just accept as normal, it’s great, appreciate it. So many times we get so caught up attaining that next big thing we forget what all we already have. Remember to notice those small, simple, but important things in your life.
“Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you will look back and realize they were the big things.”
“I’ll look back on this and smile, because it was life and I decided to live it.”
7. Celebrate Your Wins
When you have done something well, don’t be afraid to admit that you have succeeded and let yourself feel good about it. It’s so easy to say ” Anyone could have done it, I just got lucky.” Stop downplaying your successes and learn to accept compliments.
“The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”
“I know you have big dreams for yourself, but don’t forget to appreciate how far you’ve come already. Remember the days you prayed for the things you have now.”
8. Cut Out Negative Self Talk
Everyone has an inner critic that judges, belittles, and tells you, “you aren’t enough”. Shut down that negative voice inside your head., it is doing you any good. Negative self talk is never in your interest, even if its true. step away from it, talk back to it and replace it with positivity.
“What you think of yourself is much more important than what other people think of you.”
“Be careful how you talk to yourself, because you are listening.”
9. Understand The Difference Between Confidence And Arrogance
Make sure you know the difference between Confidence and arrogance, there is a fine line. Don’t be rude and develop a sense of entitlement. You need a good balance between accurate self knowledge and respect for who you are.
Definition of Arrogance:
An attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner.
Definition of Confidence:
The feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on a person or thing.
“Arrogance requires advertising, Confidence speaks for itself.”
10. Feed Your Self Esteem and Cheer Yourself On
Definition of Self Esteem: Confidence in one’s own worth or abilities.; self respect
Set yourself goals in your life and do things that help you feel accomplished. Tell yourself you are capable and turn your dreams into goals. Identify what you are good at and do those things. Show your strengths in what you do.
Realize you are the only one who can be you, others can try to influence your life but you are the only one who can live it, own it.
Be yourself and love yourself and think positive.